Monday, July 16, 2007

Being a Mother

being a mother i can say changes me. A LOT. and i don't think that i will be able to live without my daughter. i say this because i feel for my workmate M.
to start with, i do not write to tell this story for the benefit of just 'blogging' i write this because i know i had to.
because i am also a mother.

Baby Xyrille, son of M died last saturday. at the young tender age of 7 months. yes, a month older than my daughter. he died because he fell from the duyan (cradle?! im not sure), a bedsheet for an instant duyan. i do not exactly know the whole story, just learning the fact that baby Xyrille died is more than enough for me.. although M said that his husband is the one taking care of the baby, yes, M is the one working. The husband was trying to get something a few steps away from the cradle when he hears a short cry of baby Xyrille, being used to little cries and whims of his son, he just continue on what he is doing and when he look back he just saw his son face down on the floor. He run to his child as soon as possible and picks him up, but no more response coming from the baby..that moment he calls for help and brought the baby to the nearest hospital.. Dead on arrival, the hospital claims. The child that time was said already had a darken color of the skin.

Unfortunately, M wasn't aware to any of this things because no one was able to call the mother and inform her of what happened. She just learned that her son was brought to the hospital when she came home and her neighbors told her what happened. The accident was said to occur between 4 to 430 in the afternoon, and she was able to get to their house around 6pm.

Another friend/workmate texted me around 10pm that same night and told me the tragic accident, so i called her to confirm the news. I don't know, but what it broke my heart. really, upon hearing what happened. Out of nothing i embraced my own child and almost cried.

I thought i had felt the saddest feeling a mother could have upon learning what happened. But you know what, i was so wrong. The saddest part is seeing personally the mother in front of her little baby's box. Yes, box, the family couldn't afford to get a real coffin for their baby, i guess you know what i mean. The father just make a box for his child and to what i saw, they just covers the whole box with cotton balls... Today, We (my officemates) went to M's house during lunch break because the internment was scheduled at 1pm, they had to bury the child because no embalming was done.

I thought the movie Magnifico has the saddest and pitiful burial and procession that i was able to saw but tell you, i was again wrong... the Magnifico that broke and tear my heart apart plus the tears i shed was nothing compare to baby Xyrille's. At that moment upon looking at the scene i cannot help but asked God why sometimes people who are not financially able are the ones given such ordeal. But then i know i am not in the position to asked Him of anything. I just can't help but to really feel sad for them.

To all of you who were able to read this, please, i asked you to include BABY XYRILLE and his family on your prayers. They needed it.




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8 comments:

Haze said...

i feel for the mom... nakakalungkot talaga pag bilang magulang ikaw ang maglilibing sa anak mo.

will include your friend and their baby in our prayers.

makes us truly appreciate how precious our little ones are...

my condolences to your friend. *hugs*

kRisTiNe said...

I wish I hadn't read this. It sounds so unreal. I'm speechless and even more paranoid. Please send my condolences. Yes, I will include them in my prayers tonight.

KaThYcOt ;p said...

guess what... ako din, praning ako ngayon with Olin, like i always to check out on her or something...
really hurts to see the scenario kanina.. im really affected :(

ninjathet_0312 said...

tsk tsk tsk!

bakit naman kasi gumamit pa ng bedsheet para gawing unan?

reminds me of the film JohnQ. Parents aren't supposed to be the one to buried their children. They should "come" first.

condelences dear....

irel said...

I'm so sorry about what happened to your friend. kawawa naman. your right this is probably the worst thing that can happen to any parents!i will include them to my prayers:)

Mommy Chi said...

it is sad to hear about mothers/parents losing their children but i do believe that God has a reason for making these things happen.

YETTE said...

how sad naman. i cannot believe that what seemed to be an innocent accident could end so tragically. =( i will include the baby in my prayers. it seems so unreal. i cannot imagine life without my boys. that's just too painful.

after i read this post, i am very glad that nothing happened to Ethan when the treadmill fell on him the other day. talagang lucky siya na his guardian angel was watching over him. as in thankful talaga ako for this little miracle.

=_ChRisTeLLe_= said...

oh! i was really affected after reading your post. i didn't breathe for a while as i was reading it, and can't believe that it really happened to the baby. there's no one to blame i know. but it really hurts xyrille's mom & dad. as a mother, i know how grateful it is to see your child, and the most tragic thing that could happen is to lose the one that carries your blood. hope time can heal them both of what had happened. did anyone contribute for the coffin of the baby? that's another sad part there. at least he could have a nice burial after what had happened. i do understand the situation of the parents since they're financially incapable. I just hope there were people who extended their help for the baby's burial...i must admit, i was hurt knowing what had happened to the baby...